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Startup-Wife Rambling

Lakshmi Thampi · Medium Free Beginner India

Almost every resource here speaks to the founder. This one speaks from the other chair: twenty years as the wife of an Indian founder, written in her own voice. She admits to being more doubting Tom than cheerleader, names the constant questioning uncertainty forces on her, and says plainly that her insecurities came from a place of care and concern that got lost in translation. Read it to understand the guilt from your partner's side, so you stop treating their fear as opposition and start treating it as information you have to answer.

  • Your partner's doubt is usually care and concern that landed as criticism, not a lack of belief in you
  • The uncertainty is not just yours: it lands daily on the person who did not choose the risk but lives with it
  • Silence and a visionary's confidence read as being shut out, the fix is to keep them inside the decision and its numbers
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The question it answers

  1. My spouse and family think I'm crazy for risking a stable job on this. How do I manage the guilt and the relationship strain?

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