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The Emotional Cost of Being a Founder

Wil Schroter · Startups.com Free Beginner

Read this so you stop expecting your non-founder friends and family to understand the ride: Schroter is blunt that they cannot, because they have never been on it, and that the loneliness of defending your choice at every dinner is a real tax. For an Indian founder carrying the added weight of 'log kya kahenge,' it names why you should stop litigating the decision with people who cannot assess it and protect that energy for the actual work.

  • Friends and family who are not founders will not understand why you did this or what you are going through; expecting them to is a losing bet
  • The loneliness and the constant justification are a predictable emotional cost, not a sign you made the wrong call
  • Get your real support from people who have built companies, and conserve energy instead of spending it defending the leap
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The question it answers

  1. Everyone I know says quitting is reckless. How do I handle non-founder friends and family who think I'm making a mistake?

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