Initialized Capital / Medium

Why we picked it A YC-caliber founder (later YC's own CEO) tells the specific story of watching his co-founder relationship at Posterous rot because they stopped talking to avoid conflict, until his resting heart rate hit 120 bpm and he resigned. It is the exact failure mode this answer warns against, told from the inside: success masked the cracks, avoidance was the killer, and the one hard conversation they never had is what a hundred later ones needed. It makes the case for the regular founder-only check-in more viscerally than any framework.

Co-founder Conflict: Lessons learned the hard way, and how to avoid them

From Initialized Capital / Medium by Garry Tan 10 min read

• Rapid growth can hide a broken co-founder relationship; when the business stalls, the avoided conflict surfaces all at once with no healthy foundation to hold it.
• The root cause was avoidance, not disagreement: they stopped spending time together precisely because they were dodging hard conversations, and resentment compounded.
• The fix he wishes he had run: deliberate direct honesty, regular time together outside the work, and a neutral third party (coach or therapist) before the crisis, not during it.